Understand and use the Circle of Influence and Control.
This is an excellent tool to become more self-aware of how proactive we are. When we have a self-awareness of how we are spending our time and energy, we can then turn that awareness into being able to make choices that are proactive. Proactive people focus their efforts in the circle of influence and work on things they can do something about. Their energy is positive and powerful, causing their circle of influence to increase.
Reactive people, on the other hand, focus their time and energy on what they can’t influence. They focus on problems and circumstances over which they have no control. The negative energy generated by that focus, along with neglecting areas they can do something about, causes their circle of influence to get smaller and smaller.