Understand the values that matter to you the most.

Now that you know your values, you will be able to understand why you make the decisions you do, and you may even be able to see the true reason for the conflicts in your life—this is the first step toward resolving them.

1. Learn the 10 “moving-toward” values.
   These values represent the pleasurable states we’ll do the most to attain. They are: love, success, freedom, intimacy, security, adventure, power, passion, comfort, and health.

2. Arrange them in order of importance.
   Rank these values from 1 to 10, where 1 is the value you feel is the most important to you, and 10 is the value you feel is the least important to you.